{"id":293,"date":"2017-10-10T19:48:14","date_gmt":"2017-10-10T19:48:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/?p=293"},"modified":"2017-10-10T19:48:14","modified_gmt":"2017-10-10T19:48:14","slug":"mental-health-awareness-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/?p=293","title":{"rendered":"Mental Health Awareness Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

Some days are easy.\u00a0 You wake up refreshed and ready for the day.\u00a0 Maybe you have a busy day at work where you do the things you enjoy about the job, and your co-workers are in good moods.\u00a0 The day moves quickly, you are surprised by a little thing like having time to enjoy your lunch, a positive e-mail or someone wanting to meet you after work for something fun.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

Those days, being a positive influence, thinking the best of people, and enjoying where you are is effortless.\u00a0 You have no problem holding the door for a stranger, leaving a big tip or helping out a coworker with a difficult task.\u00a0 It\u2019s almost effortless and you feel happy to be a part of the world around you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not every day is like that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Some days you wake you feeling as if what you do has been a waste of time.\u00a0 Your job is, at best, a treadmill where no matter what you do, you are not getting anywhere.\u00a0 You\u2019re overwhelmed, tired, lonely, and feel as if no matter what you do, things aren\u2019t going to get any better.\u00a0 There\u2019s a reason the movie \u201cGroundhog\u2019s Day\u201d is still popular, because we all get that feeling of going through the day and doing the same things over and over again.<\/span><\/p>\n

There doesn\u2019t have to be a reason for it.\u00a0 Maybe it\u2019s an anniversary of something crappy that happened to you, or one that used to be happy that now reminds you of when things were better.\u00a0 Maybe it\u2019s an e-mail from a boss or colleague first thing in the morning about something you messed up, or something you need to fix.\u00a0 Maybe someone you wanted to hear from has blown you off and you feel like you did something wrong.\u00a0 Maybe you have to deal with the unpleasant parts of your job, life isn\u2019t going the way you wanted or\u2026\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

\u2026you just woke up and don\u2019t feel good about things.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

Those are the days it\u2019s harder to feel like helping people or even putting up with them.\u00a0 When I have those days, not only do I not want to help people, I don\u2019t want people around.\u00a0 It\u2019s a terrible trick my brane plays on me:\u00a0 I\u2019m lonely, so to hell with people, I don\u2019t want ANYONE to be around me.\u00a0 Or, if my anxiety hits, it feels like everything is about to fall apart, and my fight or flight response goes into overdrive, making me feel as if everything in my life is a house of cards and will collapse with the slightest breeze.<\/span><\/p>\n

That person who didn\u2019t get back to you?\u00a0 They really don\u2019t like you and only put up with you to be polite, in fact most everyone just puts up with you because they HAVE to.\u00a0 That job you have?\u00a0 You\u2019re going to be let go.\u00a0 The car?\u00a0 It will break down and make it so you can\u2019t get to work AND cost more money than you have to fix. And so on, and so on, ad infinitum.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

I knew someone who had serious narcissism issues, and when they would be stressed, they would demand constant praise and attention.\u00a0 The people in their life were not thought of as actual human beings with lives and emotions of their own, but props in their life to do what they were manipulated into doing.\u00a0 As hard as it was for those people, it was just as hard for the narcissist, who had a deep hole in their soul they could never fill. And dude, the fact that I understood that helped for a very long time, and allowed me to put with a lot of behaviors that, looking back, were pretty damn rough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mental health is usually thought of in terms of the Big Things.\u00a0 The addict.\u00a0 The person unable to conform to society.\u00a0 The person needing hospitalization.\u00a0 But there are a lot of people who just struggle to make it day to day, and while they look like they are doing great, are just holding on by their fingertips.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

For my anxiety to hit last night it just took a single tweet that stated something like \u201cIt\u2019s not that nice guys don\u2019t get the girl, it\u2019s that you aren\u2019t a nice guy.\u201d It wasn\u2019t aimed at me, it was about the whole \u201cnice guy whining about the friend zone\u201d thing\u2026.\u00a0 However, since it\u2019s been a long time since my last relationship, it hit me differently.\u00a0 I saw it as:\u00a0 Well, that proves it.\u00a0 I must be a screwed up abusive jerk who deserves to be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not exactly a normal, healthy response. I try pretty hard to keep the anxiety from taking over, but some days, man, some days I am Wile E. Coyote barely hanging on at the edge of the cliff and the Road Runner startles me.<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why we need to be aware of mental illness, and understand that it\u2019s not something to hide or be ashamed of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Or.<\/span><\/p>\n

They are right and I\u00a0deserve to be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

#MentalHealthAwarenessDay<\/span><\/p>\n

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Some days are easy.\u00a0 You wake up refreshed and ready for the day.\u00a0 Maybe you have a busy day at work where you do the things you enjoy about the job, and your co-workers are in good moods.\u00a0 The day moves quickly, you are surprised by a little thing like having time to enjoy your […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-293","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-personal"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/293","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=293"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/293\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":294,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/293\/revisions\/294"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}