{"id":200,"date":"2017-02-20T19:51:56","date_gmt":"2017-02-20T19:51:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/?p=200"},"modified":"2017-02-20T19:51:56","modified_gmt":"2017-02-20T19:51:56","slug":"sunday-morning-musings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/?p=200","title":{"rendered":"Sunday Morning Musings"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sunday morning, at the group home for developmentally disabled adults, my primary task was to make breakfast. Seems simple, you read the menu and give people what is on the menu:\u00a0 Oatmeal, toast, juice, milk and coffee.<\/p>\n

However, some people don\u2019t like oatmeal, some are on a diet, some have extra things they get with breakfast, and they are taking their morning meds at the time, so some people need their meds before they eat, some after, and some take so long to eat that if they don\u2019t get their pills first, they will be late because they take 90 minutes or longer to eat.<\/p>\n

On top of juggling all of that are the people who have a specific cup they use, or a way they want their toast, or what they want ON their toast and so on\u2026and many of them don\u2019t ask for it, since they have pretty much the same thing every morning, they are used to it Just Being Done The Way They Want It. That means, if you miss something, they may pout, or stare at their plate, or leave the room, and not tell you why they are upset.<\/p>\n

It sounds goofy when you write it that way, but we all have a little of that in us. We want things the way we want it, when we want it, and how we want it. And at our worst we get upset when those needs aren\u2019t met, but we don\u2019t tell the people involved why we are upset.\u00a0 How many times have you said, \u201cThey should KNOW,\u201d when it comes to a disagreement.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s just it, we don\u2019t know. Maybe we haven\u2019t known you long enough to know, maybe we are too wrapped up in our own head to know, maybe we are doing what we fee is the right thing and it\u2019s taken the wrong way or maybe communication isn\u2019t very good.\u00a0 I once had a GF mad at me for a week because I\u2019d done something in a dream that made her question my honesty (for the rest of the relationship she keep asking what I was hiding from her).<\/p>\n

So, start asking people what they want. Start telling the people you care about what YOU want.\u00a0 Don\u2019t leave the room and hope we\u2019ll figure out you want jelly on your toast and not cinnamon sugar, or that we don\u2019t like pineapple juice or that we feel alone and just want to hear that things are OK.<\/p>\n

Much love to friends old and new and I hope that today, someone you care about is able to ask for what they want, or YOU are able to ask someone you care about for what you want.<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"reddit\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sunday morning, at the group home for developmentally disabled adults, my primary task was to make breakfast. Seems simple, you read the menu and give people what is on the menu:\u00a0 Oatmeal, toast, juice, milk and coffee. However, some people don\u2019t like oatmeal, some are on a diet, some have extra things they get with […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-200","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-personal","category-writing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/200","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=200"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/200\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":201,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/200\/revisions\/201"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=200"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=200"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.solitairerose.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=200"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}